Parent's Guide

Parent’s

Guide

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. Go.at.the.Right.Pace

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. Keep.It.Simple

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. Learn.More.About.the.7.Habits

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Habit 1: Be Proactive

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Habit 2: Begin With the End in Mind

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Habit 3: Put First Things First

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Habit 4: Think Win-Win

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Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood

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Habit 6: Synergize

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Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

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. Web.Resources

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. Parent.Book.List

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. Primary-Age.Children’s.Reading.List

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. Upper-Age.Children’s.Reading.List

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. Teen.Reading.List

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Parent’s Guide

Table of Contents

EDU080908 Version 1.0.5

Welcome.to.The Leader in Me Parent’s Guide..This.guide.is.based.on.the.timeless..

principles.found.in.

The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People.and.The Leader in Me..It.shares.

easy-to-understand.ideas.and.activities,.and.a.reading.list.to.help.you.teach.and.model.

powerful.

7 Habits.principles.to.your.children.at.home

You.are.your.child’s.rst.and.best.teacher.You.lay.the.foundation.for.the.education.of.

your.children’s.mind,.heart,.body,.and.spirit.No.matter.what’s.going.on.in.your.child’s.

school,.you.can.help.your.son.or.daughter.discover.the.leader.within.and.prepare.for.a.

great.life.of.contribution.and.service.If.you.are.fortunate.enough.to.have.a.school.that.

already.supports.the.principles.laid.out.in.

The Leader in Me,.your.job.is.simpler,.but.no..

less.important—it.is.to.reinforce.the.principles.your.child.learns.at.school.and.lives.at.

home.becoming.a.leader.of.his.or.her.own.life



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. 1.You.are.so.busy!.So.the.rst.tip.is.to.look.for.ways.to.work.the.principles.into..

. . what.you.are.already.doing.Think.of.it.not.as.one.more.thing.to.do,.but.as.a.better..

. . way.of.doing.what.you.are.already.doing.

. 2.Are.there.things.you.are.doing.now.that.you.could.replace.with.more.important.activities?..

. . TV.watching.is.the.rst.thing.that.comes.to.mind,.but.there.may.be.others.We’re.not.saying..

. . TV.is.all.bad,.but.too.much.TV.can.be.a.waste.of.time

. 3.Go.at.a.pace.that.works.for.you.You.can.plunge.in.all.at.once.or.work.at.it.slowly,.

. . little.by.little.Either.way,.you.will.see.improvements.as.you.reap.the.benets.of.living..

. . by.timeless.and.universal.principles.as.a.family.

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Applying.the.principles.at.home.will.make.your.home.life.easier.and.happier.The.key.is.to.keep..

the.focus.simple.and.simply.keep.the.focus.There.are.three.things.you.can.do.to.prepare.your.child.

for.the.new.reality.help.your.child.become.more.responsible.and.independent.through.Habits..

1,.2,.and.3.focus.on.helping.your.child.become.more.interdependent.through.Habits.4,.5,.

and.6.And.:.focus.on.teaching.and.rewarding.primary.greatness,.which.is.based.on.character..

and.contribution,.not.on.secondary.greatness.(awards,.wealth,.or.fame)

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The.best.way.to.learn.more.about.the.7.Habits.is.to.read.or.listen.to.The 7 Habits of Highly

Effective People, The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Families, The 7 Habits of Happy Kids, or attend.

a.7 Habits.training.workshop.Go.to.FranklinCoveycom.for.information.about.classes.in.your.area.

Completing.the.exercises.in.this.guidebook.will.help.teach.you.the.habits,.and.you.can.also.go.to.

wwwTheLeaderInMeorg.for.even.more.ideas.for.parents.and.teachers,.and.for.how.to.sponsor.a.school.

Welcome

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The Leader in Me

Parent’s Guide

In.this.section,.we.list.a.variety.of.activities.you.can.participate.in.with.your..

younger.children.and.teens.The.more.you.involve.yourself.with.your.children,.

the.better.The.more.you.model.the.habits,.the.more.they.will.learn,.so.put

your.heart.into.the.activities.and.have.fun.together!

The.activities.are.listed.by.habit.and.include.a.brief.explanation.of.the.habit.and.

some.activity.ideas.Working.through.these.activities.with.your.children.will.help

reinforce.desired.behaviors.and.create.a.common.language,.which.will.make.them.

a.natural.part.of.your.family.life.

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Parent-Child

Activities

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The Leader in Me

Parent’s Guide

Be Proactive.means.to.take.responsibility.for.your.choices.and.behaviors.Habit.1.is.the.key.

to.all.of.the.other.habits;.that’s.why.it.comes.rst.Be.Proactive.says,.“I.am.in.charge.of.my.

own.life.I.am.responsible.for.whether.I.am.happy.or.sad.I.can.choose.how.I.react.to.other.

people.or.situations.I.am.in.the.driver’s.seat”.Young.children.can.easily.learn.to.understand.

that.different.choices.yield.different.results.The.goal.is.to.teach.them.to.think.about.those.

results.before.they.decide.what.to.do.Discussions.can.focus.on.taking.care.of.themselves,.

taking.care.of.their.things,.reacting.or.not.reacting.to.others’.behavior,.planning.ahead,.and.

thinking.about.what.the.right.thing.to.do.is.With.your.child,.think.of.ways.to.Be.Proactive.

at.home.

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Most.of.us.react.to.a.situation.immediately,.without.taking.time.to.think.about.the.results.of.our.

actions.Part.of.Be.Proactive.is.being.able.to.stop.and.think.before.we.act.With.your.child,.do.some.

role-playing.to.practice.the.skill.of.stopping.and.thinking.in.different.situations.Your.goal.in.these.

role.plays.is.to.encourage.your.child.to.stop.and.think.before.reacting.Use.the.following.ideas.to.get.

started,.and.then.think.of.some.that.can.be.immediately.applicable.to.your.child’s.life.

. 1..(In.this.role.play,.you.should.play.the.part.of.your.child’s.friend).Say.that.you.have.a.new.best..

.friend.who.lives.close.to.your.house.and.you.don’t.want.to.play.with.him.or.her.anymore.. .

.Apologize.and.then.wait.for.your.child’s.reaction.

. 2.(In.this.role.play,.you.should.be.your.child’s.sibling).Tell.your.child.that.you.broke.his.or.her.. .

. . favorite.toy.by.accident.Tell.him.or.her.that.you.don’t.think.it’s.a.very.big.deal.because.he.or...

. . she.has.many.toys.

. 3.(In.this.role.play,.you.should.play.the.part.of.your.child.and.your.child.should.play.the.part..

. . of.you).Tell.your.child.that.you.are.“sooooo.bored”.and.there.is.nothing.fun.to.do.Complain.. .

. . that.no.one.wants.to.play.and.that.he.or.she.(as.the.parent).needs.to.amuse.you.

. 4.Read.Chapter.1.of.

The 7 Habits of Happy Kids.book.with.your.child.and.then.complete.the..

. . Parent’s.Corner.

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Older.children.begin.to.rely.more.and.more.on.their.peer.group;.they.can.allow.a.rude.comment.by.

a.friend.to.ruin.their.whole.day.and.are.easily.led.into.misbehavior.by.their.peer.group.As.a.parent,.

it’s.important.to.help.your.teenager.understand.the.importance.of.taking.responsibility.for.his.or.her.

own.life.and.choices.It’s.also.important.for.you.as.a.parent.to.let.your.child.learn.from.his.or.her.

mistakes.If.you.always.save.the.day,.your.child.won’t.learn.responsibility.and.independence.

. 1.The.next.time.your.child.forgets.homework.or.his.or.her.soccer.shoes.before.the.big.game,.

. . think.hard.before.coming.to.the.rescue.What.are.you.teaching.your.child.when.you.save.the.day?.

. 2..If.your.child.has.a.dispute.with.a.teacher.or.gets.a.grade.he.or.she.thinks.is.unfair,.encourage..

your.teen.to.make.an.appointment.with.the.teacher.to.discuss.it.one-on-one.instead.of.doing..

it.for.him.or.her.

Be Proactive

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The Leader in Me

Parent’s Guide

. 3.Make.a.pact.with.your.teen.to.together.stop.an.unhealthy.habit.Identify.the.habit.you..

. . want.to.stop.(smoking,.overeating,.watching.too.much.TV,.not.exercising,.etc).and.choose..

. . a.start.date,.an.end.date,.and.progress.check-in.dates.along.the.way.Explain.to.your.teen.that...

. . research.shows.it.takes.a.full.21-days.to.start.a.new.habit.or.stop.an.old.one,.so.it’s.important..

. . not.to.get.discouraged.or.give.up.too.quickly.

. 4..Have.a.discussion.with.your.teen.about.the.things.he.or.she.would.be.willing.to.stand.up..

and.ght.for.in.the.face.of.peer.pressure.Tell.your.child.you.don’t.want.him.or.her.to.tell..

you.what.he.or.she.thinks.you.want.to.hear.You.might.try.role-playing.this.so.your.child..

can.be.prepared.to.stand.up.to.a.friend.or.group.if.needed

. 5.The.amount.of.trust.you.have.in.a.relationship.is.like.a.checking.account.at.a.bank.If... .

. . you.make.lots.of.deposits,.you.develop.high.trust.and.a.big.account.If.you.make.lots.of.. .

. . withdrawals,.you.have.a.low.balance.Share.this.idea.with.your.teen.and.then.think.of.things.. .

. . you.can.both.do.to.increase.your.deposits.with.each.other.Let.your.teen.do.most.of.the.. .

. . talking.and.really.listen.to.his.or.her.ideas.Have.your.child.list.what.his.or.her.own.personal.. .

. . deposits.and.withdrawals.might.be.You.can.also.make.your.own.list.of.what.you.consider.

. . to.be.deposits.and.withdrawals.for.you

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The Leader in Me

Parent’s Guide

Begin With the End in Mind means.to.think.about.how.you.would.like.something.to.turn..

out.before.you.get.started.Reading.a.recipe.before.cooking.or.looking.at.a.map.before.

leaving.on.a.trip.is.beginning.with.the.end.in.mind.For.young.children,.a.good.example.

is.that.of.a.jigsaw.puzzle.Before.doing.a.puzzle,.they.look.at.the.cover.of.the.box.

They.start.with.the.end.in.mind

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A.family.mission.statement.is.like.a.constitution.your.family.lives.by.that.helps.you.all.make..

decisions.for.your.life.It.represents.the.purpose.and.values.of.your.family,.and.will.allow.you.to..

shape.your.future.according.to.the.principles.you.as.a.family.hold.most.dear,.rather.than.letting..

other.people.or.circumstances.determine.it.

Mission.statements.take.many.forms.Some.are.long.and.some.are.short.They.may.take.form..

as.a.saying.or.phrase,.a.picture,.a.poem,.or.even.a.song.Make.it.personal.to.your.family.



. 1.Discuss.the.following.questions.with.your.family:.

. . What.does.our.family.want.to.be.known.for?.

. . ..

. . .

. . How.do.we.treat.each.other?

. .

. . What.unique.contributions.can.we.make?

. .

. . What.big.goals.do.we.want.to.achieve?.

. .

. . What.unique.talents.and.skills.do.we.have?

. .

Begin With the End in Mind

H A B I T 2

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The Leader in Me

Parent’s Guide

. 2.Brainstorm.ideas,.words,.and.phrases.to.include.in.the.mission.statement..

. . Remember,.no.idea.is.a.bad.idea.

. 3.Begin.crafting.your.statement,.but.remember,.it.doesn’t.have.to.be.nished.in.one.sitting..

. . It.can.be.a.work.in.progress.until.you.are.all.happy.with.the.outcome.

. 4.Post.the.statement.prominently.in.your.home.and.encourage.the.entire.family...

. . to.consider.it.when.making.decisions.or.having.disputes.

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We want to be the kind of family our dog already thinks we are.

The mission of our family is to create a nurturing place of order,

love, happiness, and relaxation, and to provide opportunities for

each person to become responsibly independent and effectively

interdependent, in order to achieve worthwhile purposes.

No empty chairs.

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. 1.Habit.2.provides.a.good.base.for.activities.around.goal.setting.As.a.family.(or.with.an.

. . individual.child),.choose.an.area.that.needs.improvement.The.area.of.improvement,.or.the.. .

. . broad.goal,.becomes.your.end.in.mind.Then.think.of.specic.steps.that.will.lead.to.achieving.. .

. . this.goal.For.example,.if.the.goal.is.to.improve.as.a.reader,.specic.steps.may.include.reading...

. . a.certain.amount.of.time.every.day.or.working.several.times.a.week.to.improve.oral.uency.

. 2..Ask.your.child.if.there.is.something.special.he.or.she.would.like.to.buy,.then.help.your.child.

plan.how.much.money.he.or.she.will.need.to.save.and.how.long.it.will.take.Discuss.ideas..

for.earning.extra.money.like.doing.additional.chores.and.helping.around.the.house.

. 3.Create.a.“wants”.and.“needs”.collage.with.your.child.Cut.out.pictures.of.various.items..

. . (toys,.candy,.vegetables,.cleaning.supplies,.appliances,.books,.etc).from.a.magazine.and..

. . then.ask.your.child.to.paste.them.under.the.correct.column.of.“wants”.or.“needs”..

. . Discuss.why.he.or.she.chose.to.put.the.items.in.the.respective.columns.

. 4.Read.Chapter.2.of.The 7 Habits of Happy Kids.book.with.your.child.and.then.complete..

. . the.Parent’s.Corner.



. 1..Discuss.your.child’s.career.ambitions.and.help.him.or.her.identify.the.most.important.skills..

.that.will.be.needed.to.succeed.in.that.career.Then.encourage.your.child.to.meet.with.the..

.school.counselor.to.discuss.his.or.her.career.ambitions,.and.the.skills.it.will.require,.and.plan.

the.school.path.that.will.make.it.happen.

. 2.Identify.and.encourage.extracurricular.activities.that.support.your.child’s.goals.

. 3.Help.your.child.look.for.jobs.and.internships.related.to.his.or.her.goals.

. 4..Older.kids.have.more.expensive.“wants,”.but.they.are.also.capable.of.earning.more.money..

Ask.your.teen.if.there.is.something.special.he.or.she.would.like.to.buy,.then.help.your.child.

plan.how.much.money.he.or.she.will.need.to.save.and.how.long.it.will.take.Discuss.ideas..

for.earning.extra.money.like.getting.a.part.time-job.or.doing.extra.chores.

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The Leader in Me

Parent’s Guide

Put First Things First means.to.decide.what.is.most.important.

and.to.take.care.of.that.rst.Thinking.about.what.needs.to.be.

done.tomorrow.or.by.the.end.of.the.week.can.be.overwhelming,.

especially.for.children.Learning.to.think.of.which.things.are.the.

most.important.and.taking.care.of.them.rst.allows.children.

(and.adults).to.be.less.stressed.If.your.child.uses.a.planner.

at.school,.then.he.or.she.has.a.great.organizational.tool.to.

Put.First.Things.First.in.writing.By.writing.down.his.or.her.

responsibilities.and.planning.ahead,.last-minute.trips.to.the.

store,.missed.events,.or.missed.homework.are.avoided.

If.your.child.does.not.use.a.planner,.having.a.weekly.log.

would.also.be.helpful.This.could.simply.be.a.piece.of.paper.that.is.

used.each.week.Modeling.this.behavior.is.one.of.the.best.ways.to.teach.children



. 1.Create.a.list.of.things.your.child.needs.to.accomplish.throughout.a.week.With.your.child,..

. . rank.the.tasks.in.importance.Then.rewrite.the.list.in.order.of.importance.Use.a.planner..

. . or.calendar.to.schedule.time.so.that.the.important.things.are.done.rst.

. 2.Role-play.with.your.child.about.the.consequences.of.forgetting.to.study.for.a.math.test..

. . How.will.your.child.feel?.What.are.the.consequences?.Then.role-play.how.it.will.feel.to.be..

. . well.prepared.and.get.a.great.match.score!.

. 3.Encourage.your.child.to.design.or.decorate.his.or.her.own.planner.or.weekly.activity.log.

. 4.Read.Chapter.3.of.The 7 Habits of Happy Kids.book.with.your.child.and.then.complete..

. . the.Parent’s.Corner.



. 1..If.your.teen.doesn’t.currently.use.a.planning.system,.buy.one.(It.makes.a.great.gift,..

and.is.an.investment.that.will.pay.off.in.the.long.run).If.your.teen.prefers.electronics.to..

paper,.no.problem.There.are.a.variety.of.online.and.software.resources.as.well.

. 2.Ask.your.child.to.make.a.list.of.what.he.or.she.thinks.is.his.or.her.biggest.time-waster..

. . and.what.to.do.about.it.

. 3.Plan.time.as.a.family.This.is.especially.important.as.your.children.get.older.and.want.to..

. . spend.more.and.more.time.with.friends.Set.aside.a.couple.of.hours.once.a.week.as.family.. .

. . time.Watch.a.movie,.go.out.to.eat,.play.games,.cook.dinner.together—whatever.ts.your.. .

. . family.Protect.this.time.and.make.it.a.tradition.Everyone.in.the.family.should.block.it.out..

. . on.their.calendars.

Put First Things First

H A B I T 3

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The Leader in Me

Parent’s Guide

Think Win-Win.is.the.belief.that.everyone.can.win.It’s.not.me.or.you—it.is.both.of.us..

It.is.a.belief.that.there.are.enough.good.things.for.everyone;.it.is.an.abundant.way.of.

thinking.Think.Win-Win.is.being.happy.for.others.when.good.things.happen.to.them.

As.a.parent,.not.everything.is.negotiable,.but.if.you.go.into.discussions.with.your.child.

with.a.win-win.mindset,.you’ll.nd.a.lot.less.resistance.



. 1...Play.a.game.with.your.child(ren).that.has.a.denite.winner.Explain.how.competition.is.okay.. .

when.you.play.a.game,.but.it.is.not.okay.in.relationships.Discuss.how.tense.it.would.be.in.. .

your.home.if.every.situation.had.to.have.a.winner.A.better.way.to.think.is.win-win.This..

means.we.think.of.solutions.that.we.can.all.feel.good.about.when.there.is.a.problem.The.

more.we.Think.Win-Win,.the.fewer.problems.there.will.be.You.may.want.to.display.a.chart..

listing.the.days.of.the.week.When.someone.is.“caught”.thinking.win-win,.he.or.she.gets.to.

write.his.or.her.name.on.the.chart.for.that.day.

. 2.Encourage.win-win.solutions.to.sibling.disputes.Don’t.always.be.the.mediator;.let.them.work.. .

. . out.a.solution.and.be.sure.to.be.lavish.children.with.praise.when.they.do.

. 3.Read.Chapter.4.of.The 7 Habits of Happy Kids.book.with.your.child.and.then.complete..

. . the.Parent’s.Corner.



. 1.Say.you.are.sorry.when.you.yell,.overreact,.or.accidentally.blame.one.of.your.children.for.. .

. . something.he.or.she.didn’t.do.Modeling.this.behavior.will.set.expectations.for.how.your..

. . child.should.behave.

. 2.Set.clear.expectations.with.your.children.about.chores,.curfew,.grades,.car.privileges,.etc.

. . It’s.hard.for.you.both.to.win.if.you.are.playing.by.different.rules.



. 1..Think.of.an.ongoing.conict.you.tend.to.have.with.your.child.(homework,.cleaning.his.or..

her.room,.feeding.the.dog,.putting.gas.in.the.car).and.then.discuss.a.win-win.solution.to..

the.conict.Write.down.the.solution.and.then.remind.each.other.of.it.the.next.time.the.

situation.arises.

. 2.Remember.not.to.compare.your.children.in.front.of.each.other.Try.not.to.say.to.Marcelo.that..

. . “Juan.always.remembers.to.clear.the.table”.That’s.win-lose.thinking.Instead,.just.concentrate..

. . .on.praising.Juan.for.a.job.well.done.Marcelo.will.get.the.message.

. 3.Think.about.your.relationship.with.your.child.Is.it.generally.win-win?.If.not,.how.is.that.. .

. . affecting.your.family.life?.What.should.YOU.do.differently?..

Think Win -Win

H A B I T 4

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The Leader in Me

Parent’s Guide

Seek First to Understand, Then to Be Understood.means.that.it.is.better.to.listen..

rst.and.talk.second.By.taking.the.time.to.listen.to.another.person,.you.reach.a.higher.

level.of.communication.Teaching.Habit.5.to.young.children.is.done.by.rst.considering.

their.age.and.development.Young.children.nd.it.difcult.to.understand.another’s.

paradigm.(point.of.view).This.habit.is.best.approached.by.introducing.listening.as.a.

skill.that.should.be.practiced.Learning.to.listen.without.interrupting.and.learning.to.listen.

with.your.ears,.your.eyes,.and.your.heart.will.help.children.build.a.foundation.for.Habit.5.

Simply.put,.we.have.two.ears.and.one.mouth.so.that.we.can.spend.more.time.listening.

with.the.intent.to.understand.

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. 1..To.better.understand.how.listening.can.help.or.hurt.a.relationship,.try.“pretend.listening”.with..

your.child.for.a.few.minutes.Your.child.will.be.frustrated.Explain.what.you.were.doing.and.. .

discuss.how.your.child.felt.Now.have.your.child.ignore.you.when.you.are.talking.Discuss.how...

it.makes.you.feel.when.you.are.ignored.Finish.the.discussion.by.thinking.of.ways.to.let.the..

other.person.know.when.you.feel.you.are.not.being.truly.listened.to.Remind.your.child.that.

this.is.also.an.example.of.Think.Win-Win

. 2.Body.language.can.be.even.more.important.than.words.Play.a.game.with.your.kids.where.you..

. . each.try.to.guess.the.other’s.emotion.(happy,.sad,.angry,.frustrated,.bored,.etc).without.using...

. . any.words,.just.body.language.

. 3.Demonstrate.how.saying.the.same.phrase.in.a.different.tone.of.voice.can.give.the.phrase.a.. .

. . completely.different.meaning.Try.emphasizing.different.words.in.the.phrase.“I.didn’t.say.. .

. . you.did.it”.and.then.have.your.child.tell.you.how.the.meaning.changed.

. 4.Read.Chapter.5.of The 7 Habits of Happy Kids book with.your.child.and.then.complete..

. . the.Parent’s.Corner.



. 1.Ask.yourself.what.your.biggest.listening.problem.is.Do.you.“pretend.listen”?.Do.you.only.. .

. . listen.to.give.advice.or.judge?.Do.you.plan.what.you.are.going.to.say.instead.of.really... .

. . listening?.Work.to.improve.your.listening.skills.and.model.good.listening.behavior.

. 2..Is.there.an.issue.you.and.your.teen.always.argue.about?.If.so,.go.to.your.teen.and.say,..

“Help.me.understand.your.point.of.view”.Then.really.listen.without.interruptions.When..

your.child.is.nished,.repeat.in.your.own.words.what.you.heard.until.he.or.she.acknowledges.. .

feeling.understood.Then.it’s.your.turn.to.speak.and.your.child’s.turn.to.listen.You.may.want.. .

to.use.a.“Talking.Stick”.when.you.are.having.this.discussion.Only.the.person.holding.the.. .

Talking.Stick.is.allowed.to.speak.and.doesn’t.pass.the.stick.to.the.other.person.until.he.or.she..

feels.understood.

. 3.Consider.asking.your.teen.to.let.you.know.when.he.or.she.feels.you.aren’t.listening.When.it.. .

. . happens,.thank.him.or.her,.listen,.and.share.back.and.forth.until.your.teen.feels.understood

Seek First to Understand,

Then to Be Understood

H A B I T 5

The Leader in Me

Parent’s Guide

Synergize.is.when.two.or.more.people.work.together.to.create.a.better.solution.that.either.

would.have.thought.of.alone.It’s.not.your.way.or.my.way,.but.a.better.way.Talk.about.the.

equation:.1.+.1.=.3.(or.more).How.is.that.possible?.1.person.+.another.person.=.2.ideas.+.

many.more.than.either.of.them.would.have.thought.of.alone.Synergy.is.taking.good.ideas.

and.making.them.better.by.working.together.Discussions.can.focus.on.other.examples.of.

synergy.in.nature,.history,.literature,.and.personal.experiences.For.example,.synergy.happens.

in.nature.when.a.ock.of.geese.heads.south.for.the.winter.They.y.in.a.V.formation.because.

due.to.the.updraft,.the.entire.ock.can.y.farther.than.if.each.bird.ew.alone.



•. Read.Chapter.6.of.The 7 Habits of Happy Kids.book.with.your.child.and.then.complete.

. the.Parent’s.Corner.



. 1..With.your.children,.choose.a.problem.you.may.have.(like.curfew.or.completing.tasks)..

Use.the.Synergy.Action.Plan.to.summarize.your.child’s.solution.and.your.solution:..

(1).Dene.the.problem.(2).Share.your.views.(3).Think.of.solutions.(4).Choose.the.best.

solution.together.See.if.you.can.reach.a.better.solution.(the.High.Way).than.either.of..

you.would.have.come.up.with.alone.

. 2.Institute.a.“15-minute.program”.where.everyone.drops.what.they.are.doing.and.pitches..

. . in.to.work.as.a.team.to.clean.the.kitchen,.pull.weeds.in.the.garden,.wash.the.dishes,.sweep.. .

. . the.front.porch,.etc.Cutting.out.a.small.block.of.time.where.everyone.helps.makes.the.work..

. . go.quicker.

. 3.If.your.child.has.siblings,.ask.each.to.identify.what.they.think.their.brother.or.sister.is.really.. .

. . good.at,.then.share.the.lists.with.each.other.and.discuss.how.they.could.Synergize.on... .

. . homework,.chores,.playing.games,.sports,.etc.If.your.child.does.not.have.siblings,.you..

. . can.do.the.same.exercise.using.his.or.her.best.friends—or.you.

Synergize

H A B I T 6

The Leader in Me

Parent’s Guide

Sharpen the Saw means.to.have.balance.in.your.life.There.is.a.story.of.a.man.who.was.

sawing.down.a.tree.and.not.making.a.lot.of.progress.When.a.passerby.asked.him.why.

he.didn’t.stop.sawing.to.sharpen.his.saw,.he.remarked.that.he.was.too.busy.sawing.

Habit.7.reminds.us.that.we.are.more.productive.when.we.are.in.balance—body,.brain,.heart.

and.soul.Just.like.the.four.tires.on.a.car,.if.one.area.is.being.ignored.or.overused,.the.rest.

will.feel.the.results.For.young.children,.the.car.analogy.is.one.they.understand;.a.car.could.

not.go.on.fewer.than.all.four.tires.Explain.the.four.parts.of.each.person.(body,.brain,.heart,.

and.soul).and.how.important.it.is.to.take.care.of.each.part.to.make.them.all.work.better



.. 1.Develop.a.Sharpen.the.Saw.activity.center.in.your.home.Include.arts-and-crafts.supplies,.. .

. . learning.games,.puzzles,.classical.music,.books,.etc

. 2.Discuss.various.ways.to.Sharpen.the.Saw.in.all.areas.Ideas.might.include:.body.(playing.. .

. . outside,.riding.your.bike),.brain.(balancing.reading.with.TV.watching.or.making.smarter.. .

. . choices.about.what.you.watch),.heart.(making.a.list.of.what.makes.you.happy.and.doing..

. . something.on.the.list.every.day,.spending.time.with.special.friends.and.family),.and.soul..

. . (attending.religious.services,.starting.a.journal).

. 3.Read.inspiring.books.(See.the.book.list.in.the.“Additional.Resources”.section).

. 4.Read.Chapter.7.of.The 7 Habits of Happy Kids book.with.your.child.and.then.complete..

. . the.Parent’s.Corner.



. 1.Encourage.your.child.to.keep.a.regular.journal.or.blog

. 2.Subscribe.to.magazines.that.have.educational.value.or.read.good.books

. 3.Encourage.your.teen.to.get.in.the.habit.of.reading.a.newspaper.every.day.Online.works.too!.

. 4.Make.sure.you.are.modeling.the.behaviors.in.steps.1–3.yourself.



. 1.Join.a.gymnasium.or.start.a.regular.exercise.program.with.your.child.

. 2.Pick.an.organization.to.volunteer.with.for.you.and.your.child(ren)

. 3.Visit.a.new.museum.or.try.a.new.type.of.cuisine—expand.your.horizons.and.try.new.things.

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Web Resources

. TheLeaderInMeBookorg

. TheLeaderInMeorg

. StephenCoveycom

. SeanCoveycom

. 7Habits4Teenscom

. FranklinCoveycom.

Parent Book List

 The7HabitsofHighlyEffectivePeople,Stephen.R.Covey

 The7HabitsofHighlyEffectiveFamilies,Stephen.R.Covey

 Livingthe7Habits,

Stephen.R.Covey

Additional Resources

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The.following.is.a.suggested.reading.list.Depending.on.where.you.live,.you.may.wish.

to.substitute.books.that.are.special.to.your.area,.culture,.or.language,.and.that.illustrate.

elements.of.the.7.Habits.and.the.universal.principles.they.represent



The7HabitsofHappyKids.by.Sean.Covey For.the.7.Oaks.friends,.there.is.always.something.to.

do.Whether.they’re.singing.along.with.Pokey.Porcupine’s.harmonica.or.playing.soccer.with.Jumper.

Rabbit,.everyone.is.having.fun.and.learning.all.sorts.of.things.These.seven.stories.show.how.

practicing.the.7.Habits.makes.this.possible.for.the.whole.7.Oaks.community.From.learning.how..

to.take.charge.of.their.own.lives.to.discovering.how.balance.is.best,.the.7.Oaks.friends.have.tons..

of.adventures.and.nd.out.how.each.and.every.kid.can.be.a.happy.kid!.

Primary-Age

Children’s Reading List

Habit 1: Be Proactive

KingBidgood’sintheBathtub by.Audrey.Wood..

The.King.will.not.get.out.of.the.bathtub!.Various.ideas.

are.tried.to.get.the.King.out.of.the.bathtub.so.he.can.

be.a.leader.and.rule.his.kingdom.Finally,.the.King’s.

helper,.the.Page,.takes.the.initiative.and.saves.the.day

AmazingGrace.by.Mary.Hoffman.One.day.the.

teacher.announces.that.the.class.is.going.to.put.on.

a.play.Grace.is.so.excited!.Even.after.some.of.her.

classmates.told.her.she.could.not.play.the.lead.role.

because.she.was.a.girl.and.black,.Grace.was.a.leader.

She.was.proactive.and.made.it.happen

TheLittleEngineThatCould.by.Watty.Piper..

Although.the.Little.Engine.is.not.the.biggest,.the.

fastest,.or.the.newest,.it.just.keeps.trying.When.all.

the.other.trains.refuse.to.help,.the.Little.Engine.is.

proactive.and.a.leader

AlexanderandtheTerrible,Horrible,NoGood,

VeryBadDay by.Judith.Vorst.Alexander.is.having.a.

day.where.it.seems.like.everything.bad.is.happening.

to.him.The.children.will.notice.that.Alexander.is.not.

being.the.leader.of.his.attitude,.something.he.has.

control.over

MiretteontheHighWireby.Emily.Arnold.McCully.

This.book.follows.a.young.girl’s.determination.and.

persistence.She.convinces.the.Great.Bellini.to.teach.

her.the.tricks.of.walking.on.the.high.wire.However,.

the.Great.Bellini.is.trying.to.overcome.his.newfound.

fear.of.the.wire.Mirette.uses.what.is.in.her.Circle.of.

Control.to.help

Habit 2: Begin With the End in Mind

WhistleforWillieby.Ezra.Jack.Keats.Peter.wants..

to.be.able.to.whistle.for.his.dog.but,.try.as.he.might,.

he.just.can’t.do.it.Throughout.the.story,.Peter.is.a.

leader.and.continues.to.try.to.reach.his.end.in.mind.

Children.will.relate.to.the.story.as.they.are.also.

acquiring.new.skills

TheVeryBusySpiderby.Eric.Carle.Throughout..

the.story,.the.determined.spider.spins.her.web.

She.has.an.end.in.mind—to.nish.her.web.and.

catch.a.y.for.dinner

Click,Clack,Mooby.Doreen.Cronin.The.animals..

have.an.end.in.mind.The.cows.become.leaders.

and.nally.get.electric.blankets.for.themselves.and.

the.chickens.However,.Framer.Brown’s.problems.

are.not.over.The.ducks.now.have.an.end.in.mind!

InchbyInch.by.Leo.Lionni.Inch by Inch.is.the..

story.of.an.inchworm.that.has.an.end.in.mind—to.

not.get.eaten!.The.inchworm.becomes.a.leader.by.

using.what.is.in.his.Circle.of.Control.to.“measure”.

his.way.out.of.danger

Galimoto by.Karen.Lynn.Williams.A.young.boy.in.

Africa.wants.to.make.a.galimoto.(a.toy.vehicle.of.

wires.and.sticks).However,.he.doesn’t.have.enough.

materials.The.story.provides.a.good.lesson.in.being.

a.leader:.setting.a.goal.and.following.through.to.

reach.an.end.in.mind.The.story.can.prompt.

discussions.about.other.cultures

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Habit 3: Put First Things First

FroggyGetsDressedby.Jonathan.London.In.a..

comical.way,.Put.First.Things.First.is.illustrated.

when.Froggy.tries.to.get.dressed.to.play.in.the.snow.

Froggy.has.forgotten.to.put.on.the.most.important.

things.rst—his.underwear!

TheLittleRedHenby.Paul.Galdone.(or.any.version).

The.Little.Red.Hen.found.wheat.seeds.and.wanted.

help.to.plant.them.No.one.would.help,.so.the.Little.

Red.Hen.planted,.watered,.and.weeded.the.plants.by.

herself.The.Little.Red.Hen.Put.First.Things.First.and.

enjoyed.the.results

TheVeryHungryCaterpillar by.Eric.Carle..

The.Very.Hungry.Caterpillar.comes.out.of.his.egg.

and.has.an.end.in.mind—to.eat.enough.to.sustain.

himself.while.in.his.cocoon.He.puts.rst.things.

rst.and.gets.busy.eating

AreYouMyMother?By.PD.Eastman.Baby.Bird..

is.separated.from.his.mother.and.doesn’t.know.

what.she.looks.like.He.chooses.to.be.a.leader.and.

Put.First.Things.First.when.he.goes.out.to.look.for.her.

The.baby.bird.asks.various.animals/objects.he.comes.

across.if.they.are.his.mother.In.the.end,.he.gets.put.

back.in.the.nest.just.in.time.for.his.mother’s.return

TheCarrotSeedby.Ruth.Krauss.A.little.boy.

practices.Put.First.Things.First.when.he.plants.his.

carrot.seed,.waiting.patiently.and.tending.to.it,.

even.while.others.tell.him.“It.won’t.come.up”.He.is.

rewarded.with.a.prize-winning.carrot!

Habit 4: Think Win-Win

RainbowFishby.Marcus.Pster.The.Rainbow.Fish.

believes.he.is.the.most.beautiful.sh.in.the.ocean,.

so.he.won’t.play.with.the.other.sh.Once.he.has.no.

friends,.he.seeks.out.advice.and.is.told.to.give.away.

some.of.his.beautiful.scales.While.he.initially.refuses,.

he.decides.to.be.a.leader.and.Think.Win-Win.He.gives.

away.just.one.scale,.but.when.he.realizes.how.good.

it.makes.everyone.(including.himself).feel,.he.shares.

even.more.scales.and.has.never.been.happier

TheDoorbellRang.by.Pat.Hutchins.Sam.and.

Victoria.can’t.wait.to.eat.the.cookies.Ma.made.Then.

the.doorbell.rings.Friends.arrive.and.Sam.and.Victoria.

share.their.cookies.until.there.are.so.many.friends.that.

they.only.have.one.cookie.each.Sam.and.Victoria.are.

great.examples.of.being.leaders—thinking.win-win

AlexanderandtheWind-UpMouse.by.Leo.Lionni.

Two.mice.become.friends,.even.though.they.are.very.

different.Alexander,.the.real.mouse,.thinks.that.Willy,.

the.wind-up.mouse,.has.a.better.life.and.wants.to.be.

like.him.Alexander.nally.has.a.chance.to.be.like.Willy,.

but.chooses.to.Think.Win-Win.and.help.his.friend.

Along.the.way,.Alexander.discovers.that.he.wins.too!

TheVeryClumsyClickBeetleby.Eric.Carle.The.

little.beetle.is.working.on.being.able.to.ip.over.if.he.

lands.on.his.back.He.is.a.leader.and.persists.and,.

with.the.encouragement.of.his.friends.and.the.advice.

of.a.wise.old.beetle,.he.masters.the.new.skill.Good.

discussion.of.how.his.friends.were.thinking.win-win.

with.their.encouragement

Let’sBeEnemies.by.Janice.May.Udry.James.and..

John.are.best.friends—or.at.least.they.used.to.be.

Now.James.isn’t.being.a.good.friend.or.leader;.

he.stopped.thinking.win-win.and.wants.to.be.the.

boss.John.doesn’t.want.to.be.friends.anymore,.but.

something.unexpected.happens.when.he.goes.to.

James’.house.to.tell.him

Habit 5: Seek First to Understand,

Then

to Be Understood

TheRunawayBunnyby.Margaret.Wise.Brown..

The Runaway Bunny.follows.the.thoughts.of.the..

little.bunny.who.thinks.he.would.like.to.run.away.

By.seeking.rst.to.understand,.Mother.Rabbit.truly.

listens.to.her.little.bunny.She.then.seeks.to.be.

understood.by.offering.assurance.that.she.will.

always.come.and.nd.him

TheTrueStoryofthe3LittlePigs! by.Jon.

Scieszka.

The True Story of the 3 Little Pigs.gives.

children.the.traditional.story.from.the.wolf’s.point.of.

view.(paradigm).Seeking.to.understand.the.wolf’s.

paradigm.gives.us.a.much.different.take.on.the.story

Stellaluna by.Janell.Cannon.Stellaluna.is.a.bat..

but.is.being.raised.with.birds.Stellaluna.has.to.seek.

to.understand.the.birds’.habits.in.order.to.survive.

As.the.story.continues,.the.birds.begin.to.understand.

why.bats.do.things.differently.They.realize.they.can.

be.friends,.even.though.they.are.different

Jamaica’sFind by.Juanita.Havill.Jamaica.is.a.little.

girl.who.nds.a.stuffed.toy.at.the.park.and.wants.to.

keep.it.very.much.However,.her.guilt.is.growing.as.

she.thinks.the.toy.may.belong.to.another.child.

Alejandro’sGift by.Richard.E.Albert.Alejandro..

lives.alone.in.the.desert,.so.he.is.very.appreciative.

when.small.animals.visit.to.drink.from.a.small.pond.

near.his.house.Alejandro,.determined.to.provide.

water.for.the.larger.desert.animals,.digs.a.water.hole.

for.them,.but.they.do.not.come.He.seeks.rst.to.

understand.and.realizes.that.the.water.hole.is.too.

close.to.his.home,.so.he.digs.another.hole.farther.

away.The.animals.come.to.visit,.understanding.that.

he.will.not.cause.them.harm

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Habit 6: Synergize

Swimmyby.Leo.Lionni.Swimmy.is.a.little.sh.

swimming.alone.in.the.ocean.He.nds.a.school.

of.sh.like.him.and.encourages.them.to.come.with.

him.to.see.the.other.amazing.ocean.animals—but.

they.are.too.scared.Swimmy.uses.synergy.and.

leadership.to.come.up.with.a.plan

Ox-CartMan by.Donald.Hall.Ox-Cart Man.is.the..

story.of.how.one.family.used.synergy.to.survive.

in.the.early.1800s

AChairforMyMother.by.Vera.B.Williams..

Although.a.re.destroys.all.of.their.furniture,.the.

family.slowly.lls.a.large.jar.with.coins—enough.to.

buy.a.comfortable,.wonderful.chair.Synergy.and.

persistence.are.at.the.heart.of.the.story,.teaching.

children.that.working.together.and.sometimes.having.

to.wait.for.things.makes.them.even.more.special

Clifford’sSpringClean-Up by.Norman.Bridwell.

Clifford.and.Emily.Elizabeth.use.synergy.to.clean.the.

house.and.yard.in.preparation.for.Earth.Day.Clifford.

takes.a.leadership.role.by.shaking.out.rugs.and.

digging.up.weeds

Howthe2ndGradeGot$8205.50toVisitthe

StatueofLiberty.by.Nathan.Zimelman.The.children.

in.the.second-grade.class.have.lots.of.ideas.and.

energy.for.how.to.make.enough.money.to.visit.the.

Statue.of.Liberty.They.take.on.leadership.roles.by.

synergizing.on.collaborative.projects,.earning.plenty.

of.money.to.cover.their.trip

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

Don’tLetthePigeonStayUpLate!By.Mo.Willems.

Don’t Let the Pigeon Stay Up Late!.is.about.a.very.

persistent.pigeon.that.tries.everything.to.be.allowed.

to.stay.up.late.The.story.will.make.it.easy.to.talk.

about.how.getting.enough.sleep.is.a.very.important.

part.of.being.a.leader.of.you

OwlMoon.by.Jane.Yolen.The.story.of.Owl Moon.

follows.a.young.child.and.his.father.as.they.go.into.

the.woods.to.nd.an.owl.The.words.and.pictures.are.

quiet.and.peaceful.and.lend.themselves.to.discussing.

Sharpen.the.Saw.by.spending.time.in.nature.and.with.

people.we.care.about

TheSnowyDayby.Ezra.Jack.Keats.Peter.nds.all.

kinds.of.imaginative.things.to.do.in.the.snow.and.

even.puts.some.snow.in.his.pocket.for.later.Peter.

shows.us.how.playing.in.the.snow,.being.imaginative,.

and.taking.a.warm.bath.afterward.are.all.part.of.being.

a.leader.and.sharpening.our.saw

HenryHikestoFitchburgby.D.B.Johnson.Two.

bears.want.to.get.to.Fitchburg,.but.decide.to.take.very.

different.routes.to.get.there.One.takes.on.various.

jobs.to.buy.a.train.ticket,.while.Henry.decides.to.walk,.

enjoying.nature.along.the.way.The.contrast.of.their.

journeys.is.evident.and.illustrates.what.money.can.and.

cannot.buy.Although.both.bears.eventually.arrive.in.

Fitchburg,.Henry.has.sharpened.his.saw.all.along.the.

way.and.is.much.happier.because.of.it

Me,IAm!by.Jack.Prelutsky.This.book.encourages.

children.to.nd.the.“special”.within.themselves.The.

various.poems.help.children.realize.that.everyone.is.

different.Poetry.is.one.way.to.Sharpen.the.Saw,.and.

this.book.has.the.added.advantage.of.helping.children.

discover.themselves.and.celebrate.differences

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Habit 1: Be Proactive

JeremyThatcher,DragonHatcherby.Bruce.Coville.

One.day,.Jeremy.Thatcher.runs.as.fast.as.he.can.to.

get.away.from.Mary.Lou.Hutton,.who.is.always.trying.

to.kiss.him.He.stumbles.into.Mr.Elives’.Magic.Shop.

and.purchases.a.dragon’s.egg.He.is.astonished.to.

realize.that.he.is.responsible.for.hatching.the.egg.

When.it.hatches,.he.nds.a.dragon.that.only.he—

and.Mary.Lou.Hutton—can.see.....

OnMyHonorby.Marion.Bauer.Before.Joel.leaves..

to.ride.his.bike.with.his.friend.Tony,.he.promises.

his.dad,.“on.his.honor,”.that.he.will.be.careful.

However,.when.his.friend.takes.a.risk.and.tragedy.

strikes,.Joel.must.choose.to.Be.Proactive.in.spite.of.

his.guilty.conscience.

SomeoneWasWatching.by.David.Patneaude..

Chris’.family.is.haunted.by.the.loss.of.three-year-old.

Molly,.who.went.missing.and.was.presumed.drowned.

in.the.river.To.Chris,.there.is.something.that.doesn’t.

make.sense,.so.he.sets.out.to.nd.his.sister.

Following.a.series.of.clues,.Chris.and.his.best.

friend.take.responsibility.for.solving.a.mystery..

SaltinHisShoes:MichaelJordaninPursuit

ofaDream by.Deloris.Jordan.Young.Michael.is.one.

of.the.smallest.boys.in.the.neighborhood,.wanting.

desperately.to.play.ball.with.the.big.boys.in.the.

neighborhood.His.mama.tells.him.to.put.salt.in.his.

shoes.to.help.him.grow.taller.His.daddy.teaches.

him.that.the.most.important.things.are.practice,.

determination,.and.giving.your.best.

TheRealMcCoy:TheLifeofanAfrican-

AmericanInventorby.Wendy.Towle.Elijah.McCoy.

is.the.child.of.escaped.slaves.who,.as.an.adult,.could.

only.nd.work.as.a.reman,.despite.his.training.as.

an.engineer.Refusing.to.be.limited.by.his.situation,.

McCoy.went.on.to.invent.many.devices.that.are.still.

used.in.the.present.day.

Habit 2: Begin With the End in Mind

WhereDoYouThinkYou’reGoing,Christopher

Columbus?.by.Jean.Fritz.When.Christopher..

Columbus.set.sail.to.discover.a.new.route.to.the.

Indies,.all.he.got.were.unfamiliar.people,.a.harsh.land,.

and.mosquito.bites.However,.he.kept.his.sights.on.his.

goals.and.continued.to.make.trips.across.the.ocean.

LucyMastermindby.Alan.Feldman.Lucy.has.many.

adventures.with.her.friends.and.family.as.she.tries.

to.restore.her.family’s.decrepit.boathouse.that.has.

a.dance.oor.on.the.second.level.She.retains.her.

perspective.as.she.works.toward.her.desired.outcome.

of.a.double.birthday.party.for.her.mother.and.her.cat.............

Eddie,Incorporated by.Phyllis.Naylor.Twelve-year-

old.Eddie.decides.to.go.into.business.for.himself.with.

two.friends.and.realizes.that.business.is.not.a.simple.

thing.He.quickly.has.to.learn.the.value.of.planning.

and.foresight..

BobbyBaseballby.Robert.Kimmel.Smith.Bobby.

Ellis,.age.10,.loves.everything.about.baseball—he.

loves.it.so.much.that.he.calls.himself.Bobby.Baseball!.

He.dreams.of.becoming.a.major-league.pitcher,.but.his.

coach.plays.him.at.second.base.Bobby.struggles.with.

pleasing.the.coach—who.happens.to.be.his.dad—and.

following.his.lifelong.desire.

TheSchoolStoryby.Andrew.Clements.When.12-

year-old.Natalie.writes.a.story,.her.friend.decides.to.

act.as.her.agent.What.follows.is.an.elaborate.plot.to.

get.the.manuscript.in.the.hands.of.an.editor-in-chief.

Upper-Age

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Habit 3: Put First Things First

TheWeekMomUnpluggedtheTVs.by.Terry.Wolfe.

Phelan.When.a.parental.ban.is.placed.on.all.television.

watching.for.an.entire.week,.three.youngsters.must.

nd.other.things.to.do.with.their.time.

EsperanzaRisingby.Pam.Munoz.Ryan.A.young.

immigrant.girl.from.Mexico,.Esperanza.must.learn.

how.to.be.a.worker.in.her.new.life.in.California.Her.

priorities.change.as.she.embarks.on.a.new.way.of.life

TheTVKidby.Betsy.Byars.Leroy.is.addicted.

to.television.It.seems.that.the.commercials.and.

adventures.are.more.exciting.than.real.life.However,.

Leroy’s.daydreams.about.TV.get.him.into.trouble.more.

dangerous.than.anything.he’s.seen.on.television

JustinandtheBestBiscuitsintheWorld

by.Mildred.Pitts.Walter.At.10.years.of.age,.Justin.

thinks.housework.is.for.women,.until.he.goes.to.his.

grandfather’s.ranch.Along.with.shing,.riding,.and.

going.to.the.rodeo,.Justin.learns.about.his.African-

American.cowboy.ancestors.and.that.doing.“women’s.

work”.is.one.of.his.responsibilities.to.himself.

ChasingVermeer.by.Blue.Balliett.A.pair.of..

11-year-olds.must.solve.a.mystery.in.a.logical.

sequence.in.order.to.nd.a.thief.

Habit 4: Think Win-Win

TheButterBattleBookby.Dr.Seuss.The.New York

Times.Notable.Book.of.the.Year,.this.Dr.Seuss.classic.

describes.the.war.between.the.Zooks.and.the.Yooks.

The.children.are.taught.about.the.horrible.things.their.

enemies.do—for.instance,.Yook.children.are.taught.

that.Zooks.eat.their.bread.butter-side.down!.With.no.

dened.resolution.at.its.close,.this.book.cultivates.a.

discussion.about.practicing.Think.Win-Win.

Crashby.Jerry.Spinelli.“Crash”.Coogan.has.been.

tormenting.poor.Penn.Webb.since.the.rst.grade.

Penn.puts.up.with.it.graciously,.as.Crash.rises.to.

become.the.star.jock.at.his.middle.school.When.

his.grandfather.has.a.stroke,.Crash.starts.to.change.

the.way.he.treats.his.friends,.including.Penn.

WaitTillHelenComes by.Mary.Downing.Hahn..

Molly’s.stepsister,.Heather,.has.no.desire.to.be.friendly.

with.her.new.brother.and.sister.When.a.ghost.haunts.

Heather.and.Molly,.they.have.no.choice.but.to.ght.

the.ghost.together.After.working.against.each.other,.

then.together,.both.Heather.and.Molly.are.happy.with.

the.outcome.

TheViewfromSaturday by.EL.Konigsburg.A.

powerhouse.Academic.Decathlon.team.from.Epiphany.

has.to.work.together.to.win.the.ultimate.prize.Each.

of.the.brilliant.12-year-olds.cannot.succeed.without.

help.from.their.team.

Hiawatha,MessengerofPeaceby.Dennis.Brindell.

Fradin.Hiawatha.was.a.celebrated.Iroquois.Indian.

who.found.strength.in.himself.to.forgive.those.who.

committed.a.terrible.crime.against.him.He.became.a.

peacemaker.between.his.people’s.ghting.tribes.and.

ensured.the.survival.of.his.people.for.300.years.after.

his.own.death.

Habit 5: Seek First to Understand,

Then

to Be Understood

MarryingMalcolmMurgatroydby.Mame.Farrell.

Hannah.wants.to.be.popular.more.than.anything.else,.

but.the.son.of.her.parents’.closest.friends.is.geeky.

Malcolm.Murgatroyd.She.tries.to.keep.their.friendship.

a.secret,.but.when.it.is.revealed.to.her.peers,.she.is.

forced.to.make.a.decision.about.her.loyalties.

WitchofBlackbirdPond.by.Elizabeth.George.

Speare.Kit.is.marked.by.suspicion.and.disapproval.

upon.arrival.in.colonial.Connecticut.in.1687.Kit.nds.a.

kindred.spirit.in.Hannah.Tupper,.who.the.townspeople.

believe.is.a.witch.Torn.between.her.heart.and.her.

duty,.Kit.tries.to.get.people.to.listen.and.understand..

Rules.by.Cynthia.Lord.Catherine.has.conicted.

feelings.about.her.younger.brother,.David,.who.is.

autistic.Despite.a.slight.feeling.of.neglect.from.her.

parents,.she.loves.him.and.tries.to.teach.him.“rules”—

rules.for.behavior,.for.social.situations,.etc.When.she.

meets.Jason,.a.nonverbal.paraplegic,.she.realizes.that.

“normal”.is.difcult.to.dene

VeronicaKnowsBestby.Nancy.Robinson.Veronica.

learns.that.the.best.way.to.make.friends.is.to.“take.an.

interest”.in.people.She.determines.to.test.this.theory.

on.Kimberly.Watson.

TheBullyofBarkhamStreet.by.Mary.Stolz.

Martin.is.a.bully.This.book.answers.the.question.of.

what.makes.him.act.the.way.he.does,.as.he.seeks.

understanding.to.resolve.problems..

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Parent’s Guide

Habit 6: Synergize

CityofEmberby.Jeanne.DuPrau.The.city.of.Ember..

is.falling.apart!.The.electric.lights—which.are.the.

only.way.to.light.the.city—keep.going.out,.and.

supplies.are.running.out.Lina.and.Doon,.who.are.

very.different.from.each.other,.nd.clues.to.help.

them.save.their.city.

AWrinkleinTime.by.Madeline.L’Engle.An.unlikely.

group.assembles.to.travel.through.time.and.space.to.

save.Meg’s.father.In.order.to.succeed,.they.must.use.

each.person’s.strengths.

RubyHollerby.Sharon.Creech.Dallas.and.Florida.are.

troubled.orphan.twins.Foster.parents.Tiller.and.Sairy.

take.them.in.and.they.learn.to.create.a.new.family.

from.two.very.different.worlds

GregortheOverlander.by.Suzanne.Collins.In.this.

action-packed.novel,.Gregor.and.his.sister.fall.into.

an.underground.world.Both.Gregor.and.his.sister.

use.their.special.abilities.to.interact.with.the.creatures.

that.reside.there.and.save.the.human.race.

AlcatrazVersustheEvilLibrarians.by.Brandon.

Sanderson.This.humorous.story.deals.with.a.team.

of.very.different.individuals.who.must.work.together.

to.defeat.the.evil.librarians..

Habit 7: Sharpen the Saw

TheMysteriesofHarrisBurdickby.Chris.Van.

Allsburg.These.black-and-white.drawings.can.be.

admired.for.artistic.quality.or.used.for.creative-writing.

prompts.in.the.classroom.

UncleWillieandtheSoupKitchenby.DyAnne.

DiSalvo.Ryan.A.young.boy.uses.his.spare.time.to.help.

Uncle.Willie.in.the.city.soup.kitchen

TheNewKidontheBlock.by.Jack.Prelutsky.

Containing.over.100.poems,.this.ALSC.Notable.Book.

is.amusing.and.refreshing.

ALightintheAttic.by.Shel.Silverstein.This.

collection.of.poems.offers.a.nice.break.from.narrative.

reading.so.children.can.Sharpen.the.Saw.

TheChalkBoxKid.by.Clyde.Robert.Bulla.To.deal.

with.several.upsets.in.his.life,.nine-year-old.Gregory.

creates.a.fantastic.chalk.garden.on.the.charred.walls.

of.a.burned-out.building.behind.his.house.Through.his.

art,.Gregory.is.able.to.nd.his.place.in.the.world.

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Parent’s Guide

Old Classics

AcrossFiveAprilsby.Irene.Hunt

LittleWomenby.Louisa.May.Alcott

TheWonderfulWizardofOz.by.Frank.Baum

TheAdventuresofHuckleberryFinnby.Mark.Twain

TheLordoftheRingsTrilogy.by.J.R.R.Tolkien

AnneofGreenGables.by.Lucy.Maud.Montgomery

TheFoundlingandOtherTalesofPrydain

by.Lloyd.Alexander

TheChroniclesofNarniaby.C.S.Lewis

AnimalFarm.by.George.Orwell

AnneFrank:TheDiaryofaYoungGirlby.Anne.Frank

ToKillaMockingbirdby.Harper.Lee

CrytheBelovedCountryby.Alan.Paton

TheYearling.by.Marjorie.Kinnan.Rawlings

TheFarthestShoreby.Ursula.K.Le.Guin

OfMiceandMenby.John.Steinbeck

TheRedBadgeofCourage.by.Stephen.Crane

TheGreatestSalesmanintheWorld.by.Og.Mandino

New Classics

Sounder.by.William.H.Armstrong

IslandoftheBlueDolphins.by.Scott.O’Dell

AlongtheTracks.by.Tamar.Bergman

Night.by.Elie.Wiesel

RedScarfGirl:AMemoiroftheCulturalRevolution

by.Ji-Li.Jiang

Hiroshima.by.John.Hersey

BlessMe,Ultimaby.Rudolfo.Anaya

TheDefeatandTriumphofaFugitiveSlave



by.Virginia.Hamilton

BehindtheSecretWindowby.Nellie.S.Toll

ParrotintheOven:MiVida.by.Victor.Martinez

WalkTwoMoonsby.Sharon.Creech

IHeardtheOwlCallMyName.by.Margaret.Craven

TheColorofWater:ABlackMan’sTributetoHis

WhiteMother.by.James.McBride

PointofDeparture:19StoriesofYouthandDiscovery

by.Robert.S.Gold

RisingVoices:WritingsofYoungNativeAmericans

by.Arlene.B.Hirschfelder.and.Beverly.R.Singer

TheWatsonsGotoBirmingham—1963

by.Christopher.Paul.Curtis

TheBookofVirtues.by.William.J.Bennett

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