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I think a lot. . . of why I was so wild (as a teen) was that I was
starved for discipline. I wanted some order in my life — some
security. Those were lonely times. I don’t want [my son] to ever
think I don’t care about him or how he acts. That’s why I sit
down with him and tell him why I have these rules, why I don’t
want him to do certain things. He knows that if he makes a bad
choice he needs to be prepared for the consequences.”
– Father of a teen boy
When my son and his friends were caught drinking right before
April vacation, I cancelled his (plans). . . . He got the message.”
– Mother of a high school senior
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SET LIMITS AND
FOLLOW THROUGH
Teens whose parents set clear
rules and follow through with
consequences are less likely to
use alcohol and other drugs.
FACT
Establish rules.
≥ Think about why you don’t want your
kids using alcohol or other drugs and
clearly explain your reasons to them.
≥ You might need separate rules for
alcohol, tobacco, and other drugs. For
example, your family rule for alcohol
might be that only a sip of wine at a
religious service is allowed. Make sure
to discuss your rules with your kids
and ask if they have any questions.
Give them a chance to talk about the
rules, and then enforce them.
≥ Allow your teen to build trust. Reward
good behavior. Praise him or her often
for staying away from substances.
≥ Tighten the reins when rules are broken.
≥ Follow through with consequences.
Uphold limits set in school or in the
community. If your child is suspended
for violating a rule, help him or her
learn from the experience.
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