Index
186
breathing, deep, 82. See also
calmness
bullies, dealing with, 145–148
calmness, 81–83, 95. See also
emotions
causes of confl ict, roots of, xxiii–
xxiv, 3, 12–13
collaboration, and resolutions,
105. See also confl ict
resolution
colleagues
bullying by, 145–148
caught in middle of warring,
136–141
going over your head by,
130–136
who hate each other, 152–157
See also counterpart
commonalities, focusing on, 117.
See also confl ict resolution
common ground
focusing on, 76–77 (see also
conversations)
identifying, 49–50 (see also
assessment of situation)
common situations, navigating.
See confl ict situations
communication
clarifying lines of, 133–134
during conversations, 89–95,
96
email, 122–126
informal, 124–125
nonverbal, 92–93, 94
confl ict avoiders, xxv, 32–34, 48
confl ict management
adapting approach to, 59–60
direct option for, xxiv, 22–25,
53
do-nothing option for, xxiv,
15–19, 53
exit option for, xxiv, 25–28, 53,
57–58
indirect option for, xxiv, 19–22,
53
involving third parties in, 20,
95–97
lead by counterpart, 28–29
plan for, xxiii–xxviii
situation assessment, 43–60
win-win approach to, xxiii
confl ict resolution, 101–110
accepting lack of, 107–109
characteristics of, 101–103
documenting agreement, 107
evaluating possibilities,
105–106
fairness and reasonableness
of, 103
reaching, 103–107
satisfying interests in, 102–103
confl ict seekers, xxv, 32, 34–35,
48
confl ict situations, 121–164
anger toward boss, 141–145
caught in middle of warring
colleagues, 136–141
colleague goes over your head,
130–136
counterpart with mental ill-
ness, 148–152
dealing with bullies, 145–148
fi ghting from afar, 122–126
managing people who hate
each other, 152–157
passive-aggressive counter-
parts, 126–130
with someone outside of offi ce,
160–164
team turns on you, 157–160