Yeah, you are right, they “got nothing.” Much of what passes for church today does not
encourage biblical living, but tries to keep peace for those who support it and make it go.
As I demonstrated in my Women Rule series [in my Bad Teaching .pdf], Christianity is
the only world religion that appeals to and is structured for women, to the exclusion of
men.
But that doesn’t mean that every church is that way, and that you have to stay in
feminized churches. I truly loathe the Men Going Their Own Way (MGTOW)
movement, but I heartily advocate for a Men Going God’s Way movement. Your
marriage “drove you away from God?” Instead, let your marriage drive you TO God, not
from him. Don’t accept your wife’s ukase that this is as good as you get by God’s decree.
Your celibacy is her choice, not God’s, so if there is a God to shun, it is your wife’s God,
not the God of the Bible.
I don’t know you, but because you comment on a Christian blog site, I am assuming that
you are a Christian as well. I wrote a six-part series entitled Working, Watching,
Waiting [in my Waiting and Working .pdf], and I highly recommend you read and re-
read them. Bookmark them and come back to them often. But for the sake of this post, I
give the take-aways from each, in digest form. Here are my recommendations from the
series:
For guys who are in a sexual hiatus: Realize that what you have received
and believed is a lie, and go to God to do a mental and spiritual reset.
Spend time in the Word of God, and be renewed and transformed by HIS
[not the Church’s] Word. Paul was brazen and arrogant enough to claim,
“But we have the mind of Christ.” (1 Cor. 2:16) Spend time in the Bible, and
you will be able to say the same thing.
[Prayer] – My first reason: prayer will help lift us from “average” to
“normal”. In case you don’t know it, there is a difference between the two.
Many Christians live “average” lives, which, unfortunately, is not the way
God wants Christians to live. His life, abundant life in the presence of God,
is what SHOULD be our version of “normal”. All too often, we settle for
“average”, and prayer, being in the presence of God and communing with
God, is the act of ignoring the voices that would attempt to negate His voice.
If we fail to pray, we get lost in Fog and settle for “average”.
[How to pray?] Discover what help you to create your prayer space and
discover the different tools that help you find your way into your prayer
space. Whatever works, do it. As Nike says, Just pray.
[Clean] up your life and [clear] up your mind by finding counselors, pastors
and friends who can help with support and advice, and by moving outside of
your frustration. In doing so, you are working with God to create a better
man: You.
Find the guy you lost: All too often, it happens that one spouse allows the
other to dominate and, over time, allows his/her distinctives to be
squelched for the sake of the marriage…. Guys, you are not called to be an
accessory to your wife’s lifestyle. Yes, we are servants to our wives and